Then Jacob awoke from his sleep and said, “Surely the Lord is in this place, and I wasn’t even aware of it!”
The goal of prayer and Christian Living need only consist of learning and striving to be as present to God as God is to us. The moment it becomes about anything else, I should become very skeptical of my motivations.
As I've seen it, prayer and Christianity are often used as a person's misguided attempt to acquire God's presence in order to change something or someone (including themselves). This helps me understand why so many Christians are frustrated people. The Lord is in this place, and they aren't even aware of it.
If we redirect the use of prayer and Christian Living toward our being as present to God as He is to us, then the people, circumstances, and things we originally hoped God would change become far less of a burden. When we are present to God, it changes how we see everything and we become less desperate to change the things we see. (This does not create laziness, but instead, creates the possibility for selfless action).
Now, people tend to become fixed on an idea of God's presence (usually, as something epic). That very idea of God's presence is usually what blinds to Him us in the first place. We expect one thing and are then too distracted to see anything other than that. God is very humble and it shows in how easily ignorable He is. His presence is sweetly and gently underwhelming, requiring humility and sensitivity out of us.